Tuesday, July 17, 2007

Summer Of '69

I got my first real six string
Bought it at the five and dime
Played 'til my fingers bled

It was the summer of '69

Me and some guys from school
Had a band and we tried real hard
Jimmy quit and Jody got married
I shoulda known we'd never get far

But when I look back now
The summer seems to last forever
And if I had the choice
Ya, I'd always wanna be there
Those were the best days of my life
Ain't no use in complaining
When you got a job to do
Spent my evening down at the drive in
And that's when I met you, Ya

Standing on a mama's porch
You told me that you'd wait forever
And when you held my hand
I knew that it was now or never
Those were the best days of my life

Back in the summer of '69

Ya, Man we were killing time
We were young and restless
We needed to unwind
I guess nothing can last forever, Ya

And now the times are changing
Look at everything that's come and gone
Sometimes when I play my old six string
I think about ya wonder what went wrong

Standing on a mama's porch
You told me it would last forever
And the way you held my hand
I knew that it was now or never
Those were the best days of my life

Back in summer of '69

Friday, July 13, 2007

Satir's Conceptual Framework

1) The Family Of Origin's Influence
Our family of origin, including past generation, has a significant influence on our attitudes and behaviors.

2) Families As System
Families are systems and as such seek balance; when that balance is maintained through inappropiate roles, restrictive rules, and/or unrealistic expectations, the members needs will not be met and dysfunction will occur.

3) Low Self Esteem
The result of dysfuctional family system is low self esteem and defensive behavior, as the basic drive of human beings is to enhance self esteem and defence against threats to it.

4) Resources Of The Whole Person
Each person contains all the resources one needs for growth and healthy functioning.

5) The Process Approach
Growth is always possible and is most effectively facilitated by intervening at the level of "process" rather than "content".

6)The Process Of Change
The process of change is universal and involves stages.

Thursday, July 12, 2007

4 Defensive Communication Styles From Virginia Satir

1) Placating
When we placate, we disregard our own feelings of worth, hand our power to someone else, and say yes to everything. Placating masquerades as pleasing, a highly acceptable act in most cultures and families. However, Placating differs from a congruent attempt to please. We placate at the expense of self worth. Placating denied our self respect and give people the message that we are not important. We insist on taking the blame for the things that go wrong. We take responsibility even if we have to go to exaggerated lengths to find evidence of our errors.

2) Blaming
Blaming is diametrically opposed to placating, The Blaming stance is an incongruent way of reflecting society's rules that we should stand up for ourselves and not accept excuses, inconvenience, or abuse from anyone. We must not be "weak". To protect ourselves , we harass and accuse other people of circumstances. To Blame is to discount others.

3) Super Reasonable
The Super Reasonable pattern of communicating discounts the self and the other person. Being overly reasonable means functioning with respect to context only, most frequently at the level of data and logic. We do not allow ourselves or others to focus on feelings. This reflects society's rule that maturity means not moving, looking, touching or feeling emotions.

4) Irrelevant
The fourth survival stance is being Irrelevant, commonly confused with being amusing or clownish. The Irrelevant pattern is the antithesis of the Super Reasonable one. When people are Irrelevant, they move continually. This is an attempt to distract people's attention from the issue under discussion. They keep changing their ideas and want to do myraid activities simultaneously.

Monday, June 11, 2007

50 Lessons In Life

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. There is more healing than crying alone.
8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes : If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else. 20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Eat off the Fine China. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.
35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.
41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don't ask, you don't get.
49. Yield.
50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

Sunday, June 10, 2007

Wisdom Quote -- Love

Words which come from the heart enter the heart. -- Moses Ibn Ezra, "Shirat Yisrael"

If you judge people, you have no time to love them. -- Mother Teresa

Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. -- Antoine de Saint-Exupery

I may dole out all I possess, or even give my body to be burnt, but if I have no love, I am none the better. -- Jesus

What is called sympathy, kindness, mercy, goodness, pity, compassion, gentleness, humanity, appreciation, gratefulness, service, -- in reality it is love. -- Pir Inayat Khan

The Soul is everywhere. It's in the laughter. It's in thetwinkle in the eyes. It's in the touch. It's in the empathy you experience when someone else is hurting. It's in the joy you experience when someone you love is happy. It's in all of that and more. -- John-Roger

Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit. -- Kahlil Gibran, 1883-1931

Love is a better master than duty. -- Albert Einstein

Express love through acknowledgment. Notice the good in those around you and freely comment on it. -- Rev. Mary Manin Morrissey

When love comes to you, don't refuse it by thinking you are not worthy. You are worthy, or love couldn't come your way. -- John-Roger

The more efficient a force is, the more silent and the more subtle it is. Love is the subtlest force in the world. -- Lewis Fischer, The Essential Gandhi

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude." -- Denis Waitley

If some people continually evoke a negative response with you, you can put these people in the Light, knowing full well that they are not responsible for your negative response; you are responsible for it. -- John-Roger (Living Love from the Spiritual Heart)

The whole idea of compassion is based on a keen awareness of the other.... The whole purpose of life is to live by love. -- Thomas Merton

Becoming free is not changing yourself into someone you think you should be. Becoming free is falling in love with who you are- right now. -- Author Unknown

Saturday, June 9, 2007

Mutant Ninja Turtles

Watch the cartoon "Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles" before?
New series of Ninja Turtles are under my son's training now. See how many of them.
Haaa... bad guys, you better watch up!
These turtles were the surprise in our last visit to Pantai Keracut.
Go turtle, go, go, go....

Friday, June 8, 2007

Fly.. Fly.. Fly.. The Butterfly..

"Fly, fly, fly, the butterfly.., in the meadow it's flying high, in the garden it's flying low. Fly, fly, fly, the butterfly...."

My son likes the song, and he keeps on singing whenever he see a butterfly. That's how he learn new stuffs.